Is a visualization exercise more than wishful thinking?
A new year’s resolution is one of the most popular forms of reflection and visualization practices in the world. It’s a noble endeavor that can be healthy to embrace. We imagine ourselves stronger, better, more complete. Visualization makes us feel mighty, like we can accomplish anything! The problem with a resolution is the same as any form of visualization practice– without backing it up with action a resolution amounts to little more than wishful thinking. How can you stop your resolution from fading away and finally make real change happen in your life?
Though we love to do it, gift giving can be incredibly stressful. Even with a plan, we always find a way to cast doubts on our choices. When the slippery slope of questions start the gift we’re so sure of gets put back on the shelf. We resign ourselves to spending hours wondering around stores second guessing every new choice, until frustrated and tired we settle on a gift card. We reason with ourselves that while this is not one of the most thoughtful gifts, at least they’ll get something they really want.
Feeling overwhelmed is a common problem that can strike at any moment. As demands roll in from all directions this productivity killing monster often rears it’s ugly head. At first it’s not so bad. We feel busy, challenged, maybe even a little excited that we have so much to do. There’s a catch though. If busy goes on for too long or if tasks pile up too high the excitement quickly turns into despair, action into inaction. But what can we do?
Subversion of ideas is a powerful tool we can use to turn a negative into a positive in almost every situation. When it comes to self-worth and confidence this can be a monumentally beneficial and imperative practice. The social landscape we live in is littered with confidence destroying landmines from social media sites to youtube, and everything in between. The ability for anyone to tear us down with various degrees of anonymity is higher than ever. To combat this some of the worst social faux pas have evolved in a way that allows them to be more healthy and even absolute necessities for maintaining balance in the world today.
This commonly given advice is popular when we feel overwhelmed with our lives. Whether it’s at home, or at work. This happens when challenges and things we want are the decision of others- a boss, a spouse, or in some cases even a child. Everything exerts some kind of control over you, your time, and so your life. This struggle of time and decision centers around our topic for the day- the concept of Direct and Indirect Goals.
Every day we have countless experiences. The activities we engage in, people we talk to, and feelings we have are all opportunities for growth. These lessons can be hard to see, and even if we do see them, it can be hard to distill into a single actionable idea. Finding the deeper meaning can feel like the jurisdiction of deep thinkers, visionaries, authors, or philosophers. But the ability to glean insight, even from the most mundane situations, is something anyone can do. It doesn’t require unparalleled creativity. All it takes is a properly inquisitive mindset and the right questions.
These TED talks are some of the most mesmerizing and entertaining from the stage. They also express incredible ideas that can have a lasting impact on how we see the world and how we live our lives. These talks show us the art behind the absurd, the possibility of what you can do if you believe in yourself. How changing perceptions opens us up to possibilities that help us grow, understand, and even forgive.
Being productive is something we’re expected to be from the moment we enter education to the day we die. Yet, theories and skills needed to be productive remain absent from our formative years. If we’re lucky, some of these skills develop over time. We learn the hard way about time management. Get a few nods on how to achieve goals. This gives us a small insight into what we need to do to find success. Yet, despite our best efforts most of us never find the same success we see top performers achieving. We sit for days on end, frustratingly trying to figure out what they’re doing different, and coming up short. It’s like they instinctively know something you don’t!
Every day is an endless stream of decisions and choices. From simple things like, “What we do when we wake up in the morning?”, or “What we are going to wear out?”. To the difficult things like, “Are we going to stay at this job?”, or “How we are we going to deal with this relationship?”. Each option taken, road traveled, and person met reinforces our perceptions who we are. Despite this, the question we rarely ask ourselves is, how are we making those choices? By whose standards and what values are we allowing the course of our lives to be directed? Are we in control or is someone else?
It’s also a powerful accountability tool that identifies where we can improve. All it requires is a little quality time spent with yourself. In this post, you get everything you need to start a self-reflection habit in just two simple practices. They are even adjustable as time and your goals progress!
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